Most writers find their mentors at college or, failing that, at conferences/workshops. So many disabled/neurodivergent writers never had the opportunity to go to college (or were forced to drop out). Few conferences are affordable or accessible. The ways for us to find mentors are limited.
The Internet is often the only way disabled/neurodivergent writers can find one another. But, even with social media, connections are mainly tenuous or peripheral. We congratulate one another, share the occasional submission opportunity, commiserate about ableism in the industry, and then go back to the grind alone.
A lot of writers, especially disabled/neurodivergent writers, are self-taught. Some of us write in secret, not having a single person in our lives to encourage us. We're used to not having someone to guide us. But a lot of us wish things were different.
Few of us believe we're capable (or accomplished enough) to become mentors. There is always an invisible mark we feel we must meet before we reach out, a place in our careers that grants us the ability to lend our knowledge. It's a falsehood, but a persistent one.
Then, there are disabled/neurodivergent writers who would love to mentor but can't and feel horrible because of it. I wish they wouldn't. As an artist, your creations should come before assisting someone else with theirs. If you can barely sling words, don't worry about everyone else's.
I wonder how many of us have mentors-- or want them.
Do you want a mentor? If so, does it matter if they're disabled/neurodivergent?
Are mentors overrated in this technological age?
Let me know your thoughts!